In my forthcoming book, Tomorrow Can’t Wait, there are a few chapters that deal with the challenge of fear. Some people fear success while others fear failure. Truly I do not believe we were created this way. When I taught at a daycare many years ago I can recall this tenacious ability that kids had to try new things. For example, I could see one child playing with blocks in one second, and then five minutes letter playing on the jungle gym. Interestingly, I could observe that if one kid got bored playing with one of his friends how easy it was for him to turn around and find someone else to play with.
Fear of Isolation
What happens as we mature where we forget the instincts that so easily guided us as kids? Sometimes we may have a friendship that has been stale for sometime. Authentic moments may shift and the timing of our friendship signifies it is time to move forward. Other times another individual may come to mind and we sense a different urgency to extend more of ourselves to the other. We may fear the conflict that walking away may have, but peer influence is a strong determinant as to how one begins to perceive life. Many people may fear being isolated and alone. Honestly, I can remember that my greatest reflections of growth came from opportunities to be still. We can still dare to do something different.
Fear of Success
Can you believe that some individuals may also be afraid of success? I know many successful people that feel they can do more, but are afraid of the attention their success may provide. The thought of actually feeling as though one is accomplishing a life pursuit can be overwhelming. We all have something that we naturally can do. Why not go out there and share your gift to the world?
Fear of Taking a Risk
It’s always difficult to talk to a pessimist. One can always know when a pessimist is around because they always find a way to tell you why your desire cannot happen. Do not get me wrong, we all need a reality check, but research has shown that perception highly influences your personal and academic outcomes. If I consistently perceive that I cannot do something, I am more likely to find all of the reasons this premise is true. In contrast, if I begin to take one small step on a particular goal, I am more likely to attain this by my pre-set decision to attempt something new.
No one likes to fail, but no one likes resentment either. I know I can be successful in the intent of an action when I have given a new goal my undivided attention. Consider to take smaller risks to reach new milestones in your life.