Personal Coaching: Demystify the concept of Aging and Ignite Your Goals
Now that I’m beyond the collegiate and post-graduate years, I notice
advertisements telling me how to soothe the aches and
pains of growing older. For me, the message is, “Allana,
you are getting older.”
Society seems to expect us to just settle down with
age and abandon our favorite dreams. What a contrast to
the energy, passion, and enthusiasm of our high school
and college days, when we were encouraged to grasp the
future and reach for our dreams. Now, even in my thirties,
I find that this cheerleading squad of mentors is fading
into the background.
For example, I remember how shocked we were when
Susan Boyle stood soberly in front of an audience and
sang “I Dreamed a Dream” from the soundtrack of Les
Miserables. She was past her thirties, not wearing the
latest trends, but when she opened her mouth, a passion
emerged from inside and captured our hearts. Many were
moved to tears.
We may face many challenges when we try to maintain
youth and vigor. Indeed, as I grow older, I recognize a
need to make a daily choice so I will keep my childhood
passions strong. On the negative side, if we have gained
weight or lost time due to work or family schedules, we
may feel that it’s too late for us.
Think of it this way. The average American watches at
least twenty-five hours of television a week. If we add the
time we spend on the telephone, social media, or excessive
extracurricular activities, we can see that we have more
time than we think. We find time to spend money on
items we like and travel to special destinations, and even
this confirms that we can strive to do things if we set our
mind to it.
One of my workout buddies has been a real inspiration.
When she started working out, she weighed in close to
three hundred pounds. She was a few months away from
getting a gastric bypass to drop her weight. But first she
decided to sign up with a personal trainer and to workout
consistently. It was really tough for her, for she needed to
cook for three kids while she learned about health and
That’s when I met her in one of my personal training
sessions. As time went on, she lost well over one hundred
pounds. Today we laugh at the number of admirers
who are now praising her for her persistence. We both
acknowledge that the hardest work is often behind closed
Working out together was awesome. We kept each
other accountable and spurred each other on during
sessions. Interestingly, there were many people who started
with us but they eventually stopped coming. Why did
they stop? Again, they mentioned their work schedules
or inability to get to the gym on time. Half of the battle
is overcoming your internal conversations.
When I felt stagnant in my workout routine, I would
buy a new sport suit as an incentive. I would also watch
a good health video about nutrition before eating lunch.
Whenever I chose to eat what the physician recommended,
it would pump me up and leave me feeling like I had
accomplished something special.
In 2012, we returned from a trip to Africa. We were
visiting friends of family in Gabon, where the mother
was set apart from the party because she had Alzheimer’s
disease. As the crowd dwindled, the music
continued to play, and Grandma wanted to join in on the
action. It was so beautiful to see this woman, ninety-eight
years old, dance to her favorite songs as women held her
up for support. Every time these women thought she was
finished, a new song would start and this woman would
beckon with her hips that she wanted to dance more. She
must have danced for seven songs. The women holding
her were excited and tired from holding on, but the spirit
of this lady surpassed her age. She was youthful in her
movements and determined to have her fun!
Nobody knows us like we know ourselves. We have the
power to meet our mental challenges and proactively put a
plan in place to overcome the hurdles of transformation.
Age is just a number. How we treat ourselves governs how
well we exemplify our age.
This excerpt is from the book:
-Dr. Allana Dagraca