When I began to write from my gut, my pen seemed to move entirely on its own. 

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Missing my MOMENT

15 years

5475 days of REGRET

525,600 minutes of DOUBT

788,400 minutes of RESENTMENT

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We know that heartache can stem from a broken relationship, job loss or betrayal from a trusted friend. It can also be daunting to enter into a new phase of life where one feels completely isolated.

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Foster mother seemed like a monster to me.  She was the female version of Hulk. A giant that I hoped I could escape from.  I stared at anything that would show my reflection to understand what made me so unacceptable.  Caretaker told me I was not worth hugging because I was too black for anyone to care.  She reminded me that my father would never accept me either as he believed I was a curse for his reputation.

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Despite the beer bottles, drug dealers standing on the corner, and dried up chicken wings on the ground, we had the luxury of the fire hydrants. My memories of childhood were not all terrible.  In 1996 I was walking with finesse and had discovered my consciousness as a young adult.  On any given day I could smell “Arroz con Pollos” (Rice and Chicken) in the air from the Puerto Rican homes on the block...

 

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Sometimes we maintain a secret because we are afraid of the rejection that ensues if who we are is revealed. Some secrets are not harmful. We all love a good birthday surprise, but others can wreak havoc in our bodies and cause the same damage every time the memory of the event is recalled.

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In my forthcoming book, Tomorrow Can’t Wait,  there are a few chapters that deal with the challenge of fear. Some people fear success while others fear failure.  Truly I do not believe we were created this way. When I taught at a daycare many years ago I can recall this tenacious ability that ...

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Book Pre-Launch: Why Tomorrow Can’t Wait
Dr. Allana Da Graca

I began writing my latest self-help book Tomorrow Can’t Wait two years ago.  I remember this vividly as I was at a place of introspection.  I thought of all of the that people would say, “You have completed so much in your life and...

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We have all had moments in our lives when something shakes our core. This can be indicative of hearing negative news, receiving a diagnosis, failing at a particular goal and more. In the moment of a shift in our experience we have a decision to buy into the emotions of either trigger. For example, o...

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Anything is possible, but how many individuals understand the power of this word? Merriam Dictionary defines this as the ability for something to exist. The idea that something has a potential promise is something we can look to when we may fear not reaching certain goals in life. We can look at a s...

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For the past three years I have taught the lesson of self-value to audiences of women and teenage girls.  One of the lessons that always keeps the room engaged is my discussion about self-value.  I usually begin to ask everyone to highlight the attributes they love about themselves with an additio...

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